Youth Missional Communities – part 1

By now you’ve probably heard the phrase “Missional Community” and responded in one of two ways:

1 – Not interested.

2- Interested….BUT…

This series of posts is for those of you out there unmotivated, unaware, or  unsure about launching Missional Communities with your students.

 

(You can find more foundational information on Missionary Communities in this brilliant series of posts from 3DM GLobal Director – Mike Breen)

Let’s begin by debunking a common misconception – “Missional Communities are the latest and most effective trend for relevant, contemporary churches.” This is absolutely FALSE. If anything, Missional Communities are a return to a way of life deeply rooted in Scripture that resemble the sociological patterns of the early Church. Although this resurgence has become buzz worthy, it is far from a fad. In fact, when we hold the pages of The Book of Acts up to our current expression of Student Ministry – we might see something vastly different. Perhaps we have already bought into way too many trends, fads, and unscriptural approaches to ministry that do not resemble the biblical patterns set in motion by Jesus and His disciples.

As you follow Christ through the Gospels, two common themes arise: The first is Relationship. Jesus had an intimate and vital connection with His Father and would often withdraw in solitude to pray. This relationship defined His identity and determined His obedience. Jesus also opened up His life to twelve disciples and taught them how to do the things He could do. They had an all access pass into the good, the bad, and the ugly. Through their proximity to the Son of God, they gained the necessary capital to continue what He began by building relationships with others. Jesus also had relationships with those the world treated as the lost, last, and least. He was a friend to society’s enemies. People trapped in sin and scandal found hope, love, and reconciliation through their relationship with Jesus.

The second theme we see in the life of Jesus is Representation. Jesus not only walked with His Father, the God of Creation, He also fully represented Him. He told listeners that if they had seen Him, then they had seen the Father. Jesus only did what He saw His Father do. He walked in full authority over darkness, demons, and disease. Spiritual power flowed through Him in abundance and could be released simply by brushing up against His clothes with a little faith. He understood the Father’s redemptive mission and surrendered His life and will to it. He ushered in the Kingdom of God bringing Salvation, healing, and deliverance to those desperately searching for it. He then commissioned His followers to continue making disciples that would walk as God’s representatives for generations to come.

With all that being said, I ask you to prayerfully and soberly examine what values you are currently communicating (both in word and in action) to your students BEFORE you try to roll out new vehicles – like Missional Communities. Walk through your current youth facilities and look at them carefully. Are they conducive to the values of Jesus?  Track how you spend your time. Are you actively discipling others into the lifestyle of Jesus? Examine your passion. Do you have enough missional zeal to pioneer something this extraordinary? Check your heart. Do you actually care about the unsaved in your area enough to change how you approach youth ministry?

It’s Convention Season. Don’t Get fired!

Post youth worker convention stress syndrome is a serious issue. For that matter anytime you brain storm with peers can be dangerous. Whether you are coming off a spring convention high or amping up for one in the fall, make sure to be careful!

I love conferences. Getting to sit in on sessions with your favorite pastors and leaders, having amazing worship with your peers, and meeting new people, all while getting a personal refresher course. Conferences are awesome.

The risk comes when you return to your daily grind. You come back to your functioning ministry with new ideas, new programing, new events, new ways to reach students, and with a passion to implement these things immediately. I would encourage you to develop a function multistage plan to get your ministry to where you want it to be, not to implement it overnight. Anytime you have a big idea get everyone else to buy into that idea before you go through with it, especially if you are new to the church.

One great way to prevent push back is to not travel to conventions alone. Bring your youth workers, bring your team, and bring other staff pastors. Let those you serve with have the same experience you have, that way it is much easier to work as a team because you already have a shared vision.

I support and love change, it is important to make sure that you are not dictating the change but that instead it is owned by the group and even church as a whole. Be consistent, be available, and be yourself.

Be a Daddy, not a Buddy

Since becoming a Father 16 months ago, the mindset I approach students with has shifted significantly. My primary objective used to be simply to connect with students, usually on their terms. They could text message or call me at anytime – day or night – if they needed me. I would have them over to our house and let them pick the TV shows or movies we watched, even if they were a bit distasteful at times. I heavily practiced what Bo Boshers calls the “Be With Factor” around town as I carried out my day to day duties and errands. I invested lots of time with students but saw minimal return on my investment. Deep down I was frustrated but I would tell myself things like “Youth ministry is a marathon, not a sprint” or “I’m just planting the seeds or laying the foundation, I shouldn’t expect them to bear a ton of fruit” because after all, they are still kids. (Even though we would never want to offend a teenager by calling them a child or a kid)

Paul, in his first letter to the Corinthians writes: “I do not write these things to make you ashamed, but to admonish you as my beloved children. For though you have countless guides in Christ, you do not have many fathers. For I became your father in Christ Jesus through the gospel. I urge you, then, be imitators of me.”  (1 Corinthians 4:14-16 ESV)

These words are powerful, life giving, and when applied to ministering to teenagers make all the difference. I now set clear boundaries of when I am available for calls, texts, and hanging out – much to the relief of my wife and daughter. I say “NO” when certain movies or shows are highlighted on Netflix. I set the example of good sportsmanship when we play sports or games. I preach from the perspective of a parent, because I am one – both physically and spiritually.

What about you? Do you make decisions that might be unpopular to protect your students? Do you have firm boundaries when it comes to what media you’ll allow in your life? Are you ok being thought of as “uncool” but tremendously loving? Is your primary object with students to be their friend or a spiritual father?